Harley was stretched out on the floor sleeping. The next thing I knew he was whining, twitching and resembled my human children having a restless sleep. Instinctively, I got up from the sofa and walked over to him. My neighbor almost lost her mind as she shouted – STOP! DON’T TOUCH HIM! YOU NEVER TOUCH DREAMING DOGS!…
When this happened I was a new pet parent, what did I know? I had no clue about canine behavior – so I listened to her and sank back down onto the sofa cushion. #soconfused
Ever since that day, I’ve watched my Dood’s whine and twitch in their sleep and I’ve cooed them softly from a distance, never really understanding –
- why can’t I touch them?
- why shouldn’t I touch them?
WHAT DO YOU THINK? –
A question I’ve asked many people with pets over the course of seven years.
THE CONSENSUS? –
While those mournful wails and yelps may tug at our heartstrings – we should be mindful of that famous quote –
Let sleeping dogs lie.
Harley and Jaxson are more prone to dreams/nightmares after days of non-stop activities. So whenever the sleeping symphonies start, I watch and wonder –
- Is this a dream? Are they running across the meadow chasing a huge ball? (common signs of a good dream would be twitching, kicking and making quiet noises).
Or
- Is this a nightmare? Are they being mangled by wild dogs and I’m no where in sight to save them (common signs of a nightmare are growling, crying and sometimes screaming).
Constantly waking them could also be harmful –
Dogs dream and sleep much like humans, with similar REM patterns. Although most dogs sleep 14 to 16 hours a day, they still need some of the deep, uninterrupted sleep we do. So, if you have a dog that seems to dream a lot, constantly waking your pup may be unhealthy for him. Source: Tamara McRill
TO TOUCH OR NOT TO TOUCH? –
That is “indeed” the question!
Apparently no matter how well trained and loving your pet may be, waking them from an REM sleep could be asking for a snarl, growl or even worse – a bite.
Knowing both Harley and Jaxson I find this very hard to believe, but I’ve not tested this theory. #mommadidntraisenofool
I found this two part series (from my bestie Wiki) – How to Know if Your Dog is Dreaming – to be helpful.
In Part 1 Learning your Dog’s “Dream” Body Language…
It covers –
- Learning the different sleep stages
- Observing your dog’s eye movements
- Watching your dog’s body movements
- Listening to your dog’s vocalizations
In Part 2 Knowing What to do When Your Dog is Dreaming…
It covers –
- Not to interrupt your dog when he is dreaming
- Not to touch your dog when he is dreaming
And this was something I never EVER thought about –
- Learn what a seizure looks like. Recognizing what a seizure looks like will help you determine if your dog is having a seizure or having just a very active dream.
I’m a strong believer that there are many ways to reach the same outcome and sharing ideas can yield great results. Therefore –
HERE’S MY THREE STEP APPROACH –
Whenever one of the Boys are dreaming, I –
- Don’t touch – no matter how difficult it may be, I stand my ground and give them space
- Use my “comforting” voice – I call their name softly and slowly over and over again until they seem to respond
- LOVE – Once they’re finally awake, I take a few minutes to lay on the love! We cuddle, I hug, rub and snuggle if possible to reassure them their okay.
Does your dog dream? What’s your technique?
Make today a great start to a Doodletastic weekend ❤️
Resources:
- Should you wake your pup from doggie dreams Sidewalkdog.com
- Should you wake your dog from a dream canidae.com
- How to know if your dog is dreaming Wiki.com
- My dog has nightmares Petful.com
July 22, 2016
My mom finds it fascinating to watch us dream when we are sleeping. The noises and movements we make she finds so interesting. The only time she wakes us is if I’m snoring because I snore like an old, fat, man and she can’t sleep! I will stay with the don’t wake group.
July 22, 2016
HA! Did you say like “an old fat man?” That is too funny. Ask your mom to video tape your snoring – I’d love to hear that. Have a great weekend!
July 22, 2016
Ohhh I learned a LONG time ago NEVER to try and touch Dakota when he is sleeping, NOT a good idea!
July 23, 2016
Oh nooooo Caaren, dod you have one of those moments? Do tell…
July 15, 2018
Hahah my dog gets super grumpy when he sleeps its so funny
July 23, 2018
Does he seem to fuss when you try to wake him up? I have one that will actually roll his eyes if he’s not ready to get up. Too funny indeed.
July 22, 2016
I really like watching my dogs dream, but if it seems like they are in distress, I just talk calmly to them. It seems to help.
July 23, 2016
Me too Beth – I am amazed at how they can be in a total REM sleep pattern, yet the sound of my voice can stop the tremors, winning and twitching. It never worked like that for the human children. LOL Thanks for stopping by, please come again soon.
July 23, 2016
Because the whimpering doesn’t last too long, we have avoided touching. Based on your research, seems like we (finally) did the right thing! 😉
July 23, 2016
Thanks to my friend Monika – I never did “touch” (she scared the doodle out of me), and now that I “know” all the reasons, I’m glad I did the right thing too! Have a wonderful weekend my friend!
July 23, 2016
Great post. Gambler is 5 and the other night he was sleeping next to me and I reached out and touched him and he woke up and snapped. He has never did that before so I guess leave sleeping dogs lie.
July 24, 2016
OMDoodle – and I know that shocked you because Gambler would never snap at you otherwise. I think you’re the first person to share with me that you actually had this experience. Most people start out with “I heard.” Thanks so much for sharing JoAnn, your comment will help many.
July 24, 2016
I think our motherly instincts tell us to “awaken and comfort” but we have to remember that, despite the similarities, dogs are not children. My mom taught my brother and me from a young age to leave the dog alone when she was sleeping. Like, Emma’s mom though, I find it fascinating to watch the dogs sleep. Shadow’s snoring is usually so soft and light that I barely hear it. Callie was a teensy bit louder, but not enough to keep me awake. Ducky makes sweet, little squeaky noises. It’s been so long now (12-1/2 years) that I don’t remember any more what Kissy did in her sleep.
July 24, 2016
I just wrote something similar about our “motherly instincts” in one of my comments. I think their sounds make us believe their suffering and we don’t want that to happen. But I also have to remind myself they are dogs and not humans.
July 24, 2016
If it seems to be a good dream I just watch, but sometimes the whining and the crying I find sad and a bit upsetting to watch. I try to wake them slowly when I do, and half the time they don’t wake fully I just soothe them.
I start by talking to them and getting nice and close, then gently rubbing their shoulders working my way up their necks like a massage. It relaxes them and they only wake up about 50% of the time but the crying stops! 🙂
July 24, 2016
I’ve never tried to “touch” but Like you I have sometimes gotten really close #andpersonal. We probably think their suffering somewhat and being the nurturer that we are…
July 25, 2016
Mr. N doesn’t sleep startle but I try to wake him up gently. He’s a light sleeper anyway.
July 26, 2016
I would never have guessed Mr. N. as a light sleeper – not after all the climbing he does! Such a cutie!!!
July 25, 2016
I will only wake them if they seem very distressed – lots of whining, crying, and twitching. But I only do so by gently touching or rubbing their leg.
Cricket snores like a sailor sometimes and we love to hear it, it always makes us smile! It’s funny though, I can listen to her snoring, but if hubby snores he DEFINITELY gets woken up. LOL
July 26, 2016
I agree with you. A dogs snore can lull me to sleep – a man’s snore drives me nuts! LOL
July 29, 2016
I love learning new things about dogs. This is a fantastic post! It must be shared.
July 29, 2016
Why thank you so much Kimberly. “Share-on” my sister! Have a great weekend 🙂
August 1, 2016
Thank you for this, it’s something I struggle with often. My dog Laika has dreams (possibly nightmares) all the time and at least a couple times a week she howls in her sleep. The first couple of times it happened I was freaked out, but I’ve since learned that talking to her in a calm voice is a nice gentle way to wake her.
Unfortunately her loud sleeping habits make it impossible for her to sleep in my room, but she does get the whole couch to herself.
August 1, 2016
I too have a snorer. Harley will snore when he’s extremely tired. It doesn’t keep us up at night, it’s just funny to hear a dog snore!
August 10, 2016
I thought this was such a good post. I shared it in my newsletter today. It’s something I hadn’t really thought too much about before. Duh! Don’t touch a sleeping dog, especially if he’s having a bad dream.
August 10, 2016
Thanks so much Lindsay! That’s PAWsome! It seems to be getting a lot of attention lately #makesmehappy XOXO
October 14, 2016
My neighbor woke up her sleeping greyhound with a gentle kiss, but it startled the pup and it snapped at her and bit her. So no, I don’t wake sleeping dogs!
October 15, 2016
I’ve heard many stories like that – even as gentle as my Boys are when they are awake – I respect that they are “dogs” and I gently call them from a distance. Thanks so much for stopping by, come back and visit again soon! Have a Doodle*tastic weekend!
December 28, 2016
Thanks for posting this. I have heard the “Never touch a sleeping dog” before, but I thought it was like the “never touch a sleepwalker” rule, just old fashioned and not grounded. I do see how it could go wrong. Max is very startle-able. Usually I put one hand on his back and say his name gently. He usually wakes up just enough to settle down again. My five year old sits up and yells in her sleep, simply talking to her works well to lay her down again, I’ll definitely try this with Max from now on.
January 9, 2017
Yep – we ALL only call their names softly a few times, and I am always amazed at how quickly they fall back into an REM sleep.
November 15, 2017
Great post! I missed it the first time around!
April 24, 2018
Hello Friends,
My momma calms my “bad” dreams by slowly and softly repeating the following phrase, “It’s ok, you good boy” until I’m right back in a peaceful sleep which only takes a second or two. I also snore sometimes but she NEVER wakes me. You see, after many years sleeping side by side our snore began to sync. Now, we actually wake simultaneously if one of us stops the snoring b/c the silence is deafening, lols.
Love Brie
April 26, 2018
I too talk to them in a soft soothing tone. It really seems to help them calm down. Thanks so much for stopping by, please come back again soon!
March 22, 2019
Oh my gosh I had no idea! I always pet my dog when he starts kicking his feet and crying in his dream. Now I know! Thank you!!
July 23, 2019
Hi Mia – I just gentle call their name in a quiet mild tone. They generally look up at me, and then go right back to sleep minus the whining, tremors or shaking. I owe you a call – it’s been a crazy few months!
May 15, 2019
Oh no! I’ve always waken my boy when he’s dreaming. I caressed him tenderly until he woke up and stretched his legs, and then asked for a belly rub. I won’t interrupt his sleep from now on. Although it’s an old post, yet I thank you for this.
July 23, 2019
Hi Jenny – old posts to a first time reader is still brand new LOL Touching a dreaming dog can be a bit tricky. I don’t doubt for a second that it would be safe if I touched Harley or Jaxson, but rather then go too close to the flames (sort of speak) – I’ve been extremely successful just calling out their names in a very soft and gentle tone – until they look at me, and then they drift back to sleep with no more nightmares or tremors.
January 26, 2020
If my dog is sleeping and not showing any signs of being in a deep sleep and dreaming can I pet them?
February 21, 2020
My first question would be – “why would you want to?” That said, if you feel you want to pet him when he’s in a deep sleep, I would caution you to softly call his name so that he knows it’s you that is about to put hands on him. Personally, I wouldn’t bother either of my Boys if they were sleeping peacefully.