Last Wednesday, I shared with you the power of love as it relates to my daughter Tiffany and Harley. Today, I want to tell you about Harley’s healing powers …
Just shy of three years after her first date with cancer, Tiffany was back on the dance floor again. I remember exhaling for what felt like the first time in years when she completed her last round of “everything” the second time around!
She was twenty seven years old and finally finished with surgeries and treatments. She could now take a break from the needles, scans, probes, and everything else that’s associated with eradicating this disease from her body.
I thought “great! now she can get back to living her life somewhat like she’d planned after she graduated from college.” I’m thinking “now she can piece together those dreams she once mentally shredded after her diagnosis and retrain herself to plan for her future.”
Initially I “assumed” her transition back to the way things were and the day to day routine would be rather easy. I quickly learned I was wrong in my assumption and getting back into the “swing of things” would take some adjusting. I was learning the aftereffects of dealing with cancer was a whole new dance all by itself.
After all, she had been through an unimaginable and frightening ordeal – and she’d done it twice no less. We didn’t push and we reminded her daily to take all the time she needed.
But by the time Harley came into our lives, Tiffany had been cancer free for months, yet she was still so cautious about life. She seemed fearful to exhale and live – truly live. She frequently tip toed through many days as if she was waiting – – –
for the cancer to return.
It was hard to constantly reiterate the same words over and over again. I even became weary and bored hearing my own pep talks to tell you the truth! But even as a puppy, Harley seemed to sense when she struggled with being comfortable – being okay.
He was like a “counselor with fur” always full of energy, always making her smile, and laugh…
I read in Petsource.org that humans can teach a pet to “heel”, but pets can teach humans to “heal.” Such a profound statement. #oughttobeonatshirt
Healing is a process
Amy D. Shojal, CABC, animal behavior consultant, author of many pet care books, and pet blogger (whom I enjoy reading), wrote an article in HUFFPOST titled…
and in it she says: “Pets insist on being noticed, yet their presence is safe. They listen without judgment, and are silent without offering unasked advice. Animals know how to just sit and be with someone for as long as necessary. And pets don’t turn away from tears and grief the way humans tend to do. Sometimes our beloved animal companions are the only bridge able to receive and return affection and show us the way home to emotional health.”
I for one believe this with my whole being that pets have the ability to assist with this process…
Although everyone will tell you “Harley is “my dog”, there is a special bond between he and Tiffany…
And I thank God for it!
Have a great weekend. Harley’s got an exciting day on Saturday – stay tuned and we’ll tell you all about it!
PS: Don’t forget to be kind to someone today 🙂