When I walk out the door every morning I realize it’s not the dog – it’s me with the guilt and anxiety. I don’t like leaving my Boys…
Two days after Labor Day, I re-joined the workforce. I had been home for the past four years when an opportunity presented itself – one tailor made for me!
It took only a few days before I realized – I suffer from separation anxiety when I leave my dogs.
At first I thought –
This is normal, gotta go through the adjustment period – that’s all
But I’ve been employed for almost a month, and what I experience #aintnormal
PET PARENT ANXIETY –
seemed like the appropriate diagnosis for my pawticular disorder.
- I’m a procrastinator when it’s time to leave the house
- On the road I have a tendency to look into the rear view mirror as if they’re in the backseat
- While I’m at work, I tell time based on our daily activities (play, groom, train, photos, potty, errands)
- On the way home, I’m that driver other people scream at because I drive too fast #lanechangingdoodlemom
DO DOGS KNOW HOW LONG WE’VE BEEN GONE? –
Terrific question isn’t it?
Patricia B. McConnell PhD writes how –
studies recorded the behavior of dogs left by their owners for 30 min, 2 hours and 4 hours, and found that if the dogs had been left alone for 2 or 4 hours they greeted their owners with more ‘intensity,’ and were more active and attentive, than when the duration of separation had only been 30 minutes. However, there was no statistical significance between the dogs behavior if left alone for 2 or 4 hours.Source: The Other End Of The Leash
I can relate. On a scale of 1-5 “welcome home” rating –
- Haircut at the Salon (30-45 minutes)….. 3
- Church (3-4 hours)……5+
But those separations have been sporadic and/or once a week. Now I am out the door at 8:30 every morning – returning at about 5ish.
It’s a whole new world Aladdin 🙂
DO DOGS MISS US WHEN WE’RE GONE? –
It is then quite plausible that dogs really do understand what it is like to genuinely miss someone when they are gone; they just probably don’t understand the full extent of the absence. Source: NextGenDog
The bulk of my worries stem from thoughts of Jaxson…
He’s my baby, the “ying to my yang.” I’ve not worked outside of the home in his entire existence.
I was working when I brought Harley home. He was close to four years old when I stopped. He seems to have adjusted to our “new normal” better than Jaxson AND I…
THE STRUGGLE IS REAL –
for me at least.
I insist on getting up early enough to –
- play a bit
- feed them breakfast
- walk and groom them
Then I head out to spend 7 hours with humans LOL
I’m back in time to –
- feed them dinner
- walk them
- play a little soccer in the backyard before dark
Doodle Dad is home during the day. Although I know Jaxson and Harley are in great hands with him…
A part of me wants to make sure they’re not having ALL that much fun w/o me #selfishIknow
My prayer is that I am able to tame this overwhelming feeling that starts to stir and bubble up inside me around 1:00pm Monday through Friday. My mind starts to drift, and my focus bounces back and forth between work and “what are they doing now” thoughts.
I guess I need to give it time (either that or buy a Pet Cam!) #hewouldkillme
Pawhaps I could write a best seller – become the American version of my SHERO J.K. Rowling, and spend ALL of my days with Harley & Jaxson. #itcouldhappen #keepinghopealive
But until that day arrives, I’d better iron my clothes for tomorrow and pack my lunch!
HOW DO YOU COPE WITH PET PARENT ANXIETY? –
Please share in the comments below.
May your Friday Sparkle Bright! ✨